One after the other, you just can’t seem to catch a break. No matter how good your CV is, how eloquent and calm you are in the interviews, no matter what you do, you still get rejected. Seeing those e-mails flood up your inbox can sometimes be really overwhelming. You don’t even know what are you doing wrong, you just know that no one has yet seen your value. So, what is the best way to deal with all of that? Although every experience is different, there is still a couple of things that can be useful in any situation. Before you go down the rabbit hole, have a quick look at our list, and perhaps it will help you feel just a little bit better.
1. Evaluate the situation from another perspective
Once you get a rejection letter, it seems like the only thing you could possibly be thinking is that you are a failure. But, let’s stop right there. Yes, you have indeed failed at something, but that doesn’t make you a failure. Once the emotions settle down, take a deep breath and try to evaluate the situation. Is there something you could’ve done better? What can you learn from this experience? How can you be better next time? Try to see yourself from the point of view of the interviewers, and look for points of improvement. It isn’t going to be easy, but it will help you grow.
2. Ask for feedback
Due to a lot of reasons, companies sometimes don’t give a detailed explanation when they reject you. But, that doesn’t have to stop you from asking for it, anyway. If they have the time and the resources, they will probably give you a constructive feedback that will help you in the future. Instead of being bumped about the mistakes, make sure that they never happen again. Being aware is the first step, becoming better follows.
3. Confide in people that are close to you
If you are not sure how people perceive you, and if there is something you can do to improve the first impression you are leaving, there are people that can help you with that. Ask your family, friends and colleagues about their honest opinion, and go from there. They will for sure tell you something you weren’t aware of and will be helpful in the future. Accept their feedback with an open heart, and don’t allow them to fear your reaction. Honesty is always the best policy.
4. Don’t look for someone to blame
It’s very easy to say that the company was biased, or that they already promised that job to someone, or even that they are corrupt. But how does that help you? It only forces you to hold a grudge, and we all know that they are not healthy. Furthermore, it enables you to work on your own short comings, and transfers the responsibility to them. Of course, they make the decision, but they do it based on the information they get from us. Look for opportunities to grow any chance you get, and relief yourself from the pain of being negative and resentful.
5. Don’t give up
Pages of history are filled with stories about people who never gave up, even when they were facing tremendous obstacles. Join the ranks of the ones that persevere in the face of adversity instead of just throwing the towel and walking away. You never know where is the next great opportunity coming from, and if you decide to stop looking you might miss out on something great. Keep improving and someone will see your value.